Ain’t nobody got time for that. That’s what we need to tell ourselves about what people might be thinking of us.
Now don’t get me wrong, I, like anyone, feel anxious about people’s opinions. This was the main reason why I only started my blog recently, and not 7 years ago when I first had the idea on my mind. I was worried that people would judge me for not being the prettiest or skinniest of bloggers out there and the more I waited the more I saw more and more girls joining the bandwagon, all great looking and my fear only increased. I followed many of them, and admired them for taking the plunge but I felt like I wasn’t good enough to give it a go myself. Combine that with all the trolls stories you hear everyday on the internet and that was enough to completely freeze me.
All this time, I wondered deep down “what if ” but I couldn’t bring myself to overcome my fear of being judged. I thought people would think I am self obsessed, believing that the world is all about ‘me me me’ when really this for me would always be a place to be creative and to share what I loved to talk about in real life. My friends would repeatedly tell me I should give it a go instead of talking about doing it, that I was only wasting time and an opportunity to do something I actually enjoyed doing instead of something I had to do. I have been working in the media, specifically for magazines for 5 years now, and even though this should have pushed me to go after my ambition, it only made me feel more reticent. Models are beautiful, clothes goes in and out of style fast and you meet a lot of people doing the same thing, trying to ‘make it’ in the harsh world that is the fashion world.
So how did I get out of my fear?
Like I said, my friends and parents definitely helped to reassure me. I remember one conversation especially where my friend told me if I ever got nasty comments, he would scroll the internet until he found them, and then send them a cake in the shape of a poo emoji. Now even if this was a joke, it made me think, why was I so scared about what people I didn’t even know would think of me ? If I didn’t even know where they lived, or what they liked doing in their free time, how could they have any repercussion on my life? Surely what mattered was what people in my life I cared about thought ? And before you think that the people in your life might still judge you, if they are the right kind of friends, they will only push you to get outside of your comfort zone and support you in all your endeavours. If not, then I’m sorry to say, it’s time to cut them out of your life.
So here I am, turning my back to all the negative stuff that might be going around out there, and wearing my new favourite shirt to do so.
This khaki piece is from Promod, a French brand I love checking out whenever I go back to my motherland. I love the embroidered details on the back, and you really are doing the haters a favour when you offer them this pretty flower view.
And remember, as RuPaul (probably my favourite person on TV, anyone else here a massive fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race?) says: “Unless they paying your bills, pay them b*tches no mind”. Amen.
Red boots : M&S block heel ankle boots
Cat eye sunglasses: Quay Australia
Backpack: Accessorize red backpack